Men’s Mental Health: Why We Need to Keep Talking

The past few weeks have been deeply sobering. The tragic loss of two highly successful sporting figures, Matt Beard and Ricky Hatton, has shocked many of us. Their deaths have sparked conversations that, while difficult, are absolutely necessary, the importance of men’s mental health.

Sadly, this isn’t just a headline. Like many people, I’ve lost friends and colleagues to suicide over the years. Each time, I’m left with the same heavy thought, they had so much to live for.

On a personal level, when life throws its curveballs, it’s my wife and children who pull me through. The thought of leaving them behind, of missing out on the next adventure or watching my them grow up, is enough to keep me grounded during the darkest hours. For many, those anchors are family, friendships, future memories which can be a vital reason to hold on.

Why This Matters

The statistics paint a stark picture:

• In the UK, men account for around three-quarters of all suicide deaths.

• Men aged 45–64 remain at the highest risk.

• Suicide is the single biggest killer of men under 50.

Behind every statistic is a son, a partner, a father, an uncle, a nephew, a colleague, a friend. Too many suffer in silence because they feel they can’t talk, or they fear being judged as being weak. I understand that it can feel like you have hit rock bottom, with nowhere to turn and lack the focus or energy to pick yourself back up.

Small Gestures, Big Impact

The truth is, we can all make a difference. Sometimes, it’s not about having the perfect words or solutions as it’s simply just about being there.

Practical things we can all do:

• Pick up the phone to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while.

• Suggest a coffee, a walk, or a drink make the invite specific.

• Be willing to listen without judgement or “fixing.”

• Notice changes in behaviour and gently check in.

What feels like a small action to you could be life-saving for someone else.

Don’t Suffer in Silence

If you are struggling, please know this: you are not alone.

📞 In the UK, you can call Samaritans free at 116 123, 24/7.

🌍 Elsewhere, check your local crisis helplines as support is always available.

Asking for help is not weakness. It is courage

A Final Thought

Life is full of bumps and challenges, but it’s how we navigate them with the support of friends, family, and community that makes the difference.

I encourage you to take on a simple challenge today: reach out by phone to a friend or colleague you haven't spoken with in weeks or months. This gesture may hold more significance for them than you might expect. Additionally, remain attentive to any subtle changes in mood or temperament in friends, family members, or colleagues. And let’s keep the conversation about men’s mental health going.

Together, we can reduce stigma, encourage openness, and most importantly save lives.